Emotional Intelligence and its importance?


Most people,when they heard the word 'intelligence',usually refer to academic excellence. This is perhaps because they don't know better. Being intelligent is not synonymous to being brilliant-- it doesn't matter whether you go to school or not.
However, if one is intelligent, it can really help to boast one's academic prowess. This is why some non educated parents whose children are very brilliant academically because they are intelligent, which is transferable from parents to their offspring.
Apart from 'mental intelligence', the notion of 'Emotional Intelligence' calls for attention from the stakeholders in our psychology departments.  Emotional intelligence is one's degree of understanding the world around occurrences and on which one attend to in ways that suggest maturity or otherwise.
While it is true that reaction to issues is a relative term; depending on one's state of mind at that point in time which is a dictate of a factor or a combination of many which ranges from hunger,family issues,psychological breakdown, mental pressure to personality traits, it is very correct to a high degree that somebody who acts on impulse is not emotionally mature; for,emotional maturity is a product of emotional intelligence.
By impulse,I meant reacting to issues spontaneously as they happen without any rational thinking on the issues. Avoiding impulsive reactions means that such a person engages in rational and positive thinking before taking a step towards solving that issue.
Why is it advisable to to take your time before reacting to issues? The answer to this is not farfetched.
To think rationally will afford you the opportunity to to vary your decision with the unknown outcome so that you won't be hurt and won't have to hurt somebody.

Unfortunately, most of us do not care about who we hurt or not once we are able to satisfy our psychological needs at that point in time. Who told you that you have to be right always? Sometimes, it is better and save to assume the disvantage position ,not because you are a fool,but because somehow,it will make somebody happy. I do this some times.

A teacher teaching a class of six year olds asked a boy named  SOLID a question one day.

Teacher: 'Solid, if I give you 2 oranges plus another 2 oranges, how many oranges will you have?'
Solid: '5 oranges'.
Teacher: 2 oranges + 2 oranges how many a ranges will you have?!'
Solid: 5 oranges,ma'am'.
( the teacher was very angry,but remembered that Solid's mummy had once told her that Solid did not like orange but he loves strawberries).
Teacher: Solid, if I five you 2 strawberries+ 2 strawberries, how many strawberries will you have?'
Solid: 4 strawberries.
(The teacher was very happy for the result from the change in tactics. To confirm maybe Solid had understood her Maths).
Teacher: ' Now, Solid, if I give you 2 mangoes plus another 2 mangoes, how many mangoes will you have?'
Solid: ' 5 mangoes, ma'am!'
Teacher: ' How would 2 strawberries + 2 strawberries be equals to 4 and 2 mangoes + 2 mangoes be equals to 5?'
Solid: ' But ma'am, I already have one mango in my bag!'

Hmmmmmm! Now, the teacher or Solid, who is right?
They are both correct. The teacher is technically correct because 2+2=4. And Solid is practically correct because 2+2+ the one in his bag = 5.
You see, the cause of the problems we have in our daily lives is the difference between technical correctness and  practical correctness. If the teacher did not take her time by asking in another way, the anger would have engulfed her and she would have punished him wrongly. What she asked was that how many mangoes would he have not how many mangoes would it be?
My wife doesn't love me. You are practically right,but do you ask why she doesn't love you any longer? You need to see beyond the 4 mangoes. You should look beyond that to see the hidden one in the bag. My friend betrayed me,do you know why that had happened?
We should all look beyond our personal view of issues.
If you can do this before reacting, you are then emotionally intelligent.

                         SOLID SPECTRUM

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